If you came to this page because you thought I was going to talk about sex, you might want to leave now. It’s not. It’s about the sex education of me and my kids.
I was still married to my second wife when my oldest son was young. When it came time for sex education, the job fell to me anyway because he was a boy. No problem. As I guy myself, I’d already been there. I was confident and didn’t feel obligated to do any research. In hindsight, that was wrong! And, he might tell you that the information he got from me was either wrong or incomplete.
My role as a single dad started when the oldest was 11 and the twins were not yet 2-1/2. When the time came to have the ‘talk’ with the twins, I felt none of my earlier confidence because, well, one of the twins is a Girl! So, I talked to my sister and to the school nurse and to the female pediatrician at the Family Practice center.
I did a lot of online research and I ordered five books for her from Amazon. I also got five books for her twin brother at the same time because I have learned that it’s more peaceful here if I’m buying something for each of them.
Now, I’m not really good coping with surprises so I read all 10 books before giving them to the twins. Wow! What a shock!! When I was young, SEX was never discussed in the home. And this was long before they ever had sex education in the schools. My sex education was provided by listening to the older guys at the corner gas station on my way home from school.
Reading those books, I found out that stuff I have known for 50 years, I have known WRONG the entire time. I’ve been married twice and no one has ever corrected me.
So, I arranged each set of books into a specific sequence and then gave them to the twins. I also took them out to a private lunch individually so we could talk about the changes that were coming. I emphasized to them that if they have questions, they need to come to me -If I know the answer, I’ll tell you; if not, I’ll find the answer. I also stressed that they should not go their friends with questions because their friends won’t know any more than they do.
In the weeks and months that followed, they each had the occasional question. My daughter had the most. Many times, she would bring one of the books to me opened to a page way in the last half of the book and start with “I think I…”. I had to keep reminding her that she was still back in Stage 1 but the time would come soon enough.
If you’re interested, here is a partial list of books I purchased with (affiliate) links to the books at Amazon:
- What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys: The New Growing-Up Guide for Parents and Sons, Third Edition
- What’s Happening to My Body?: Book for Girls a Growing Up Guide for Parents and Daughters
- Girl Stuff: A Survival Guide to Growing Up
- The Care & Keeping of You: The Body Book for Girls (American Girl Library)
- Growing Up: It’s a Girl Thing
- The Feelings Book: The Care & Keeping of Your Emotions (American Girl)
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